By Tricia Morris, TransformConflicts.com
The common thinking is that divorce is harmful to children. Many parents stay married “for the children”, not resolving their issues and not learning to deal with the conflict between them.

What has come out of numerous and extensive studies is that conflict is destructive to children, whether the parents are married or divorced. By staying together and not dealing with the issues that are creating their conflict, they are harming their children much more than if they could find a way to amicably divorce and co-parent.

Children are often victims of their parents’ relationship instability because mother and father are the foundation of their safety, security, and even survival. Periods of upheaval create serious anxiety and fear in the children which they aren’t equipped to handle. Periods of conflict, therefore, cause scars that can last throughout a child’s life.

Professionals that work with divorcing couples are trained to be sensitive to the needs of the children and communicate those to the parents. Without proper guidance from a professional, too often, the pain in the relationship or marriage can take priority over the needs of the children. No parent consciously wants to harm their children but hurt happens too often.

In addition to therapists, mediators, and counselors, child custody evaluators and parent coordinators have emerged to help protect the children when there is a tumultuous marriage or a divorce. More awareness is emerging to help the parents realize the impact of their actions. When there are children in a divorce, the priority shifts to the children’s needs and educating the parents. When a divorce becomes child-focused, often the rest of the details fall into place.

I can provide information about out-of-court conflict resolution divorce, custody/ parenting time, parenting coordination, families, marriages, workplace disputes, businesses, trusts and estates, real estate, homeowners’ associations, as well as problem-solving between individuals.

As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® and Parent Coordinator, I am qualified to help you sort through the myriad of child and financial issues that you may be encountering.

I am here to support you. Tricia Morris – 808.283.7811 – Tricia@TriciaMorris.com / www.TransformConflicts.com